Watch Your Language, Young Lady!

When I wrote the first books of the Never Say Spy series without filters, I thought I’d get lambasted in the reviews and I was  surprised when it didn’t happen as much as I’d expected.  Some people do still complain about the coarse language and I’ve responded to them here, but I’d like to hear from you folks who have stuck with me:

How do you feel about Aydan’s potty mouth?  How would the stories change for you if Aydan never (or rarely) swore?  How about Hellhound?  Is it different when he does it?

22 thoughts on “Watch Your Language, Young Lady!

  1. In all honesty I feel Aydan swears too much. But that is me and my feelings on ladies in general. Maybe it is my Old South roots but ladies don’t swear, and if they do it is not the norm and it means to make a point. Aydan would still be as much a “bad ass” if she cut the swearing down to make a point. I know in this day and age that is real old fashion thinking, but that is just my opinion.
    On the flip side, Hellhound swearing is in character. I could not see him any other way. However he seems to not swear as much as Aydan, but then again I notice her colorful language more because it makes me cringe. Yep, a double standard here, but again Old South, Old fashion, that’s me.

    At this point if Aydan changed her usage of swear words it would not be in character. She has done it from book 1 so unless she points out she is making a change and then works on it in the future books it would not work and would feel false.

    Now to really show my craziness…speaking and the written word are two different forms of conveying ones thoughts. Ladies don’t curse out loud, however in writing, cursing is acceptable. Can’t explain it really, maybe one can express their true feelings with facial gestures and other non verbal forms so a colorful word usage is not needed as much when talking but when writing a well used curse word can put it all out there on what is felt.

    Okay, now that I have bared how my wacky brain works (or doesn’t) I can only offer the not much sleep these last few months defense….sleep deprivation has been proven to make people not think logically….I’m going with this excuse.

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    1. That’s interesting because I was brought up the same way. Reading or hearing swearing doesn’t bother me a bit these days, but even to me, coarse language in print seems somehow less offensive than hearing it spoken out loud. When I was producing the first audiobook I considered whether to ‘bleep out’ the swearing, but in the end I decided to keep it true to the original written form. I’m still second-guessing that.

      I don’t usually swear in public unless I’m dealing with a sudden adrenaline jolt, but with trusted friends I relax and let it all hang out. Even then, though, cuss words are like Tabasco sauce – a dash of spice makes things interesting, but very few people want the whole bottle in their meal.

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  2. If Aydan wants to roll with the big boys, (yeah I really said that) she can’t Twitter like a debutante. It’s interesting that as a counter point, John very rarely swears.

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    1. Yes, I purposely made John more restrained; partly because I wanted to create a contrast with Aydan’s language, but mostly because as an agent he’d be trained to be circumspect in the way he presented himself.

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  3. I’m not a huge fan of ladies with blue vocabularies, but some of the stuff Aydan’s been through would drive a saint to blasphemy, so to speak. I’m okay either way. You write it, I read it. That’s our deal.

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  4. Meh….doesn’t bother me one way or another. Swearing is just a thing. Some people do it more than others. It’s just part of a person’s persona…right? I used to swear so much more than I do now. In high school my “favorite swear word/phrase” was
    “G-d.damn.mother.f-ing.a$$.hole.b!tch”. (spelled funky so my post doesn’t get auto flagged for whatever reason! LOL) Once I started working in a school I worked extremely hard at changing my language (even though I was in a high school….you know….must be professional) I started with things like: “Cheese and Rice!!!” instead of Jesus Christ, Holy kabuki, (no clue why, but it sounded cool-ish) (funny side note, one of my high functioning autistic kids asked me, after 3 years with me, “Mrs. Hyland, that’s funny when you say it but what does Japanese Theater have to do with anything?” LOL Ahhh…I miss my kidd0’s!) and “for the love of God” LOL. Now that I’m out of the schools I’ve gone back to the standard cuss words, but don’t use them as much as I did when I was young. btw-the long phrase is no longer in use!
    So I guess the swearing doesn’t bother me. It’s not like she drops the f bomb as her favorite noun, verb, adverb or adjective! (because it can be used as all! LOL)
    As far as Hellhound: same as above!!! 🙂

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    1. I like your comment: ‘swearing is just a thing’. As I mentioned above, it’s like Tabasco to me: People who don’t like spicy food consider Tabasco an affront to tastebuds and decency, but those who like spice consider it an essential condiment. Like you, I think it’s neither good nor bad, it just ‘is’.

      I got a chuckle out of your classroom story – that’s cute!

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      1. 😀 I love it! Oh Fungus!!!!! hahahahaaaa….I’m gonna start using that one! hehehehee

        I will NEVER forget how serious he asked that question!!! 😀

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  5. I have to fess it doesn’t bother me at all, I smile at her colourful language, in times of stress my language gets worse, towards the last 6 months of my last job I was stressed to the max with everything and I do mean everything. On nights with a few friends it was pointed out to me to my huge embarrassment. I have to say once the redundancy was sorted and I found a new job I’m back to normal on the swearing as in I hardly do it. But I’m sure should the need arise I’ll be on top form.

    I think after 12 books it’s accepted and it it’s not I’d love to know why not. And if its a surprise have people just glossed over it with their eyes????

    I love your books so don’t change anything re the swearing coz like it or not at times we all do it

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  6. The swearing in your books doesn’t bother me in the least. No matter who is doing the cussing. Whenever they use strong language, they are swearing about a situation or event. They are not verbally assaulting or demeaning another person. That is where I draw the line for myself too. I rarely use strong language in front of my students or with supervisory personnel, and I can’t remember telling anyone off while using strong language. On my own in my car or at home, if things go poorly the air will be tinted rather blue. Around friends or other peers I talk however I feel at the time.

    I wasn’t raised to swear, quite the reverse, in fact. But I never liked fake swearing. Gosh, golly, darn, jeepers, etc. just aren’t cool to say. I do like unique swearing like Julie Hyland’s “Holy Kabuki” or my Mom’s “Oh, Gravity,” after the huge frozen roast landed on her foot. But as I left the nest, I didn’t want to be seen as a naive, innocent child who was too timid and sweet to ever say a bad word, so I slung a few bad words from time to time. I still do sometimes but never just to fit in, and more rarely overall.

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    1. “Oh, Gravity” – what a wonderful epithet! When I think about it now, I had a rather unusual upbringing: My parents belonged to the United Church, a moderately progressive church at the time, but swearing was still verboten. But we also attended summer Bible schools of various stripes since it was a tiny community and there weren’t enough kids to warrant strict adherence to a specific flavour of Christianity. Some of the religions were so strict that they even forbade words like ‘jeepers’ because they said it showed bad intent – it sounded too much like ‘Jesus’. I remember thinking at the time (about 10 years old) that you couldn’t say or do anything without sinning somehow. Then, a different summer, a different Bible school; and they were using text materials designed to reach inner-city kids who grew up hearing language that would curl your hair. I’ll never forget doing a skit from that program – the language was so foul that they wouldn’t let us say the words out loud and instead we substituted a furious pounding on the long-suffering piano to get the emotion across. It’s no wonder I grew up with very little inclination to discriminate against “bad” words… 😉

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  7. I love it! I was a tomboy growing up and my father’s “right-hand-man”. I was around ranch/farmhand all the time and it was like going home to read Aydan’s and Hellhound’s language. While WWII was going on, we had Mexican “Guest Workers” filling in for the hands that had joined the army. My father was the only person in the community that spoke Spanish so I spent a lot of time with them. To my father’s amusement and my mother’s dismay, they taught the four-year old me to swear in Spanish. I wish I still could.

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  8. I’m with Some Random Guy, you write it, I’ll read it. My biggest concern is the more I’m around it, the more likely I probably am to slip and use it when I oughtn’t. Like in front of my pastor or his wife. Yikes. We were raised to not even say “Geez” which was called Sunday School Swearing. Too much like real swearing I guess, folks knew you were trying to swear without actually doing it. Now I probably drop the effingheimer too much, although if I’m being REALLY good I can catch myself and pull a Ralphie, turning it into a long, drawn out ffuuudddgggeeee.
    So I read something interesting online tonight…a story about the hacking of the DNC emails, and they think it’s by Russian groups. There are a variety of reasons why, but one reason is that the forensic trail leads there, they said “a wide spectrum of cyber-security experts concluded that it was the work of Russian intelligence agencies through previously known proxy groups known as COZY BEAR or APT 29, and FANCY BEAR or APT 28.” You don’t suppose they’re linked to Fuzzy Bunny? 😉

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